Many people who are carers do not see themselves that way. They often say, “I’m just helping my mum,” or “I’m just looking after my partner or child.” If this sounds like you, you are not alone.
Caring usually grows slowly. It can start with small things, like checking in more often or helping now and then, and before you realise it, caring has become a regular part of your life. Because it feels natural to care about someone you love, many people do not realise that what they are doing means they are a carer.
But if you provide unpaid support to someone who could not manage without your help, you are a carer – and that means support is available to you too.
You may be an unpaid carer if you regularly help someone who is:
This support might include practical help, emotional support, or simply being there when they need you.
You do not need to live with the person you care for, and you do not need to be caring full time to be a carer. Even a few hours of unpaid support each week can mean you are a carer.
Many carers tell us they only recognised their role after seeing themselves in everyday examples. You might be a carer if you:
If any of these sound familiar, it is highly likely that you are a carer.
Many carers hesitate to use the word carer because the person they support is their child, parent, partner, or close friend. Caring for someone you love can feel like something you should do, not a role you have.
Being a carer does not take away from your relationship. It simply recognises the support you give and makes sure you can access help for yourself as well.
Recognising yourself as a carer can feel like a big step, but it can make a real difference to your life.
When you know you are a carer, you may be entitled to:
You deserve support too. Looking after yourself is not selfish – it helps you continue caring without becoming overwhelmed or burnt out.
Many carers tell us they worry that their situation is not “bad enough” to ask for support. The truth is that support is there to help prevent things from becoming overwhelming.
Whether you are coping well or finding things difficult, you are welcome to reach out.
At Leicester Carers Support Service, we understand caring because we work with carers every day. We know that every caring role is different, and there is no one right way to feel.
If you are unsure whether you are a carer, or you simply want to talk things through, we are here to listen. Getting in touch does not commit you to anything – it is just a conversation.
Whether you’d prefer to call our dedicated helpline, send an email or come to our carer’s drop-in , we’re here for you when you’re ready.
You are not alone, and support is available when you are ready.